The wave of women empowerment has undeniably brought about significant positive changes. However, it seems to be taking a turn that might not be entirely beneficial. The initial aim was to create balance and equality, but in some instances, it appears we’re veering towards a lack of responsibility for one’s actions.
Let’s set aside gender for a moment and consider this from a human perspective. For any individual—male or female—to foster a healthy relationship, especially during conflicts, it’s crucial to understand and acknowledge where they went wrong and where their partner did. A balanced relationship involves calling out mistakes while taking ownership of your own. It’s about owning up to your errors without accepting unfair treatment from the other person. This mutual accountability is key to a healthy relationship.
However, the media often presents a one-sided narrative. The common message is about deserving the best—emphasizing that women should not settle for anything less than perfect. We hear that a man should be kind, compassionate, mature, responsible, and attentive because women need to love themselves and deserve to be loved fully. While these qualities are undoubtedly important, this message is somewhat lopsided.
The discussion should also focus on how women can be deserving of the qualities they seek in a partner. It’s not just about demanding the best but also about striving to be the most loving and compassionate version of oneself. This aspect often gets overlooked. Nowadays, we see scenarios where women might not reflect on their behavior and expect perfection from their partners. There’s a tendency to quickly reject or dismiss anyone who doesn’t constantly make them feel like a queen.
But what about their contribution to the relationship? What are they doing to deserve such treatment? This conversation is rarely addressed. Ironically, this situation might benefit men in the long run. It pushes them to become wiser, more mature, and better versions of themselves. On the other hand, if women don’t reflect on their actions, they miss out on the opportunity to grow and become better and wiser themselves.
Self-love and commanding respect are indeed important aspects of a healthy relationship, but they are only part of the equation. Equally important is self-awareness and personal growth. Without these elements, the foundation of a relationship may lack the depth and maturity needed to weather the inevitable storms.
Regardless of gender, a person capable of creating a healthy relationship is someone who can take a neutral stance in any situation, recognize their own mistakes, and understand where their partner might be wrong. Healthy relationships require honest discussions, ownership of personal flaws, and effective communication of each other’s shortcomings.
In conclusion, while striving for what we deserve in a partner is important, equally crucial is our effort to be deserving of a great partner. This balance of give and take, of self-reflection and mutual respect, is what truly leads to fulfilling and healthy relationships.
